避免談話地雷

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Expert:Suzanne Bates, president and chief executive officer of Bates Communications, an executive-training firm in Wellesley, Massachusetts, and author ofSpeak Like a CEO(McGraw-Hill, $22,amazon.com).
專傢：Suzanne Bates,Bates溝通（一傢位於馬薩諸塞州的高層培訓公司）總裁、CEO，著有《CEO的說話之道》一書。

三、面試篇：

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Don’t say:“My current boss is horrendous.”
Why:It’s unprofessional. Your interviewer might wonder when you’d start bad-mouthing her. For all you know, she and your current boss are old pals.
Instead say:“I’m ready for a new challenge” or a similarly positive remark.
不要說： “我現在的老板糟糕透頂。”
因為： 這樣說很不專業。你的面試官可能會覺得今後你也會說他的壞話。從你的角度看，他們都是一國的。
換句話：“我覺得自己已經準備好接受新挑戰瞭。”或者類似的正面理由。
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Don’t say:“Do you think I’d fit in here?”
Why:You’re the interviewee, not the interviewer.
Instead say:“What do you enjoy about working here?” By all means ask questions, but prepare ones that demonstrate your genuine interest in the company.
不要說： “你覺得我會適合這個環境嗎？”
因為： 是你在被面試，不是面試官。
換句話： “你個人覺得這個工作環境最好的是什麼部分？”面試中你也可以提問，但最好提些能說明你對該公司非常感興趣的問題。
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Don’t say:“What are the hours like?” or “What’s the vacation policy?”
Why:You want to be seen as someone who focuses on getting the job done.
Instead say:“What’s the day-to-day like here?” Then, if you’ve really jumped through every hoop and time off still hasn’t been mentioned, say, “Can you tell me about the compensation and benefits package?”
不要說： “工作時間怎麼樣？”或者“假期是怎麼安排的？”
因為： 你應該表現出自己可以專心工作的樣子。
換句話： “日常工作環境是什麼樣的？”然後，你就可以得知該公司的工作環境瞭，要是對方沒提到休假的問題，可以說“請問公司的獎懲以及福利制度是怎麼樣的？”
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Expert:Mary Mitchell, president of the Mitchell Organization, a corporate-etiquette training firm in Seattle, and author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Etiquette (Alpha, $19,amazon.com).
專傢：Mary Mitchell，西雅圖公司禮儀培訓公司Mitchell公司的總裁，也是《禮儀指南》一書的作者。

四、孕嬰篇：

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Don’t say:“Are you pregnant?”
Why:You ask, she’s not, and you feel totally embarrassed for essentially pointing out that she’s overweight.
Instead say:“Hello” or “Great to see you” or “You look great.” Anything besides “Are you pregnant?” or “What’s the due date?” will do. Save yourself the humiliation and never ask.
不要說： “你懷孕瞭嗎？”
因為： 要是你問瞭，可她並沒懷，那就實在是太尷尬瞭，這不就是在說她太胖瞭嗎？
換句話： “你好啊”或“見到你太好瞭”或“你看起來好極瞭。”總之不要問“你懷孕瞭嗎？”或者“預產期幾號？”就行瞭。為免尷尬還是不要問這種問題吧。
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Don’t say:“Do you plan on breast-feeding?”
Why:The issue can be controversial, and she may not want to discuss her decision publicly.
Instead say:Nothing. Unless you’re very close, don’t ask. If you slip, make up for the blunder by adding, “And do you feel comfortable telling me?”
不要說： “你打算喂母乳嗎？”
因為： 這種問題有點復雜，可能引發爭論，也有可能她會不想在大庭廣眾討論這些。
換句話： 什麼都別問。除非你倆特別親近，否則就什麼都別問。要是不小心問出瞭口，就補上一句：“跟我談這個不尷尬吧？”
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Don’t say:“Were your twins natural?” or “It must have been hard for your child’s birth parent to give him up.”
Why:You’re suggesting that natural conception is better than in vitro fertilization (IVF) or adoption.
Instead say:To a parent of multiples, try a light “Wow, you have your hands full!” To an adoptive parent, say the same stuff you would to any other parent: “She’s adorable!” or “How old is he?”
不要說： “你的雙胞胎是自然受孕的嗎？”或者“你寶寶的生身父母放棄他肯定特別難受。”
因為： 這麼說感覺好像自然受孕就比人工授精或者領養更好。
換句話： 對多胞胎的父母，可以輕松地說：“哇，這麼多肯定累死你瞭。”對收養的父母，說你對普通父母會說的話就行瞭，比如“她真可愛。”或者“他多大瞭？”